infidelity...hmmm

oh no, i'm not talking about myself here...i have a very happy lovelife:) it's just that a lot of the people around me (family & friends) were victims of this so-called infidelity lately. i saw the sadness in their eyes, how they were hurt & how hard it is for them to move on.

i have experienced this as well but i was not the recipient (i just don't want to dwell on it, those who knew me really well knew what happened to my family). that experience also had an effect on me, i thought i would never learn to trust men (i even told myself that i would never get married) but God has other plans. you see, in every experience, God is saying something to us. in my case, God told me to be careful in choosing my life partner which i did.

lately, with the things that happened to these people, i've learned that women are as capable as men in committing this. yes folks, so my previous assumption about men was totally wrong. but honestly, can you blame them (if they are not married that is, otherwise it will be a mortal sin)? if they are very technically single & they felt very drawn to this other person...can you really blame them? one of my friends said, it all boils down to values...that may also be true but all i can say is ...maybe that person is just really not meant for you. God will search a way for you to find "the one". maybe you met this person for you to know what you're really looking for in a partner, or maybe that person will lead you to someone who's really meant for you...you can never really tell. as I've said God will lead you in finding the right person for you even if it means you'll get hurt in the process. ouch!!! i know infidelity can do that, but that's part of life. you will never know the true meaning of joy if you were never hurt, much more the true meaning of love if you never knew how it felt to lose it.

so cheer up people (you know who you are), no need to mope around...be grateful that as early as now, you have discovered that he/she is not "the one" for you. as the saying goes, you may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince:')