"If Only"

I've watched the movie "If Only" starring Jennifer Love Hewitt and Paul Nicholls on DVD last Sunday. Man, it was quite a movie. It was about a guy who thought he lost his girlfriend over an accident. Before his girlfriend died, the day didn't turn out right for him and he actually blamed her for the series of unfortunate events that happened to him. They broke up before his girlfriend met an accident. He felt so guilty about everything so you could just imagine his surprise when he woke up beside her the next morning. I wouldn't want to tell you what happened in the end, better watch it.

Since he was given a chance to be with her again, he cherished those moments he spent with her. His dillema before she died was that he knows he loves her but he actually doesn't know how to love her. So on that day that they were together, he professed his love for her in more ways than one.

The movie basically revolved on the question, "What would you want to do if it's your last day here on earth?" I know this may sound morbid to some but death is inevitable, we should not be scared to discuss it every now & then. A lot of people may not agree with me but I do find those people who knew when they will die (like those people who are terribly ill and were advised by their doctors that they could live until a certain period of time) lucky. Why? Because at least they would know what they would do during their remaining time. Some of us may just die in a snap of a finger without any warning. True, we should always live as if it is always our last but I also believe in living for the moment. There are just some things that couldn't be accomplished at once, some things really takes time to do.

So, if you really knew that today will be your last what would you do? I would give my answer on this one, definitely I will not go to work (that would be tragic!). Let's see, I would want to have confession and hear mass. Then, I would contact those people I hurt and those who hurt me as well to patch things up. I would spend the rest of the day with my loved ones. I know most of us will do the latter, all of us should actually. This was what they did in the movie, they spent the whole day together, not minding anything but their love for each other. They talked of things that they usually do not discuss, they made love, they went to a place that the girl is dying to go to but most importantly they professed their appreciation and love for each other. If there's anything that we can actually do everyday and not wait before our "last day", it would be to show our appreciation and love to people who are important to us. I, myself, is a sucker for appreciation. It's not about boosting your ego, it's more on feeling that you are loved. A pat on the back, a smile, a hug and if you can always say how much you a love a person that would really spell the difference. We tend to take people esp. those whom we love for granted, let us learn to appreciate them on a daily basis.

I would just like to end this with Paul Nicholls' last statement to Jennifer Love Hewitt,

"I wanna tell you why I love you
I have to tell you this and you need to hear it.

I loved you since I met you
But I wouldn’t allow myself to truly feel it
until today.
I was always thinking ahead.
Making decisions out of fear.
Today, because of you , what I learned from you.
Every choice I made was different
and my life has completely changed.
And I’ve learned that if you do that,
You’re living your life, FULLY!
It doesn’t matter if you have five minutes
Or 50 years.
If not for today, if not for you.
I would never have known love at all.

So thank you for being the person
Who taught me to love and to be loved.

I just wanted to tell you this and you don’t
have to say anything ."

If we will all say these things to our loved ones everyday then we are really living our lives to the fullest and there won't be any room for regrets.