Pamamanhikan

Kokoy's family went to our house last Sunday (Sept. 4) to actually do the Filipino tradition of pamamanhikan or formally asking the girl's hand in marriage from her family. In our part, this was really just a formality. Way before the pamamanhikan, everybody knew that Kokoy & I are getting married and that we have already prepared most of the details of our wedding. It turned out fine, most of our family members just gave us pieces of advice regarding marriage. Of course, one of the biggest question that popped up was, who's going to bring me to the altar? I was kinda hesitant to say it and I think it was my brother who told them my reason. As I wrote in my previous entry, I don't want anybody to bring me to the altar because I was saving it for my father, for his spiritual presence actually. My paternal grandma cried when she heard my reason and told me I was doing the right thing (my lola was really close to my dad).

The conversations went on smoothly, everyone has a word to say and I could honestly say that everybody was happy for us (except for my tito who got drunk and was claiming that he saw my father in our bathroom and that he doesn't approve of my fiance... i was like duh, you're already drunk...i know my fiance better than anyone and he's such a responsible and God fearing man...as i mentioned again in my previous post...my dad even actually helped me when i was discerning whether to accept Kokoy in my life or not). My paternal grandfather even mentioned that Kokoy was truly a gift from God. Well, Kokoy really exerted an effort to get to know my family during the five years that we've been together and I must say that it paid off. My grandparents and titos and titas all approved of him.

Honestly, I was trying to hold back my tears all throughout that event. Those were supposedly tears of joy, I was really happy and I feel so blessed that my family is truly supportive. Kokoy told me how happy he was as well that both our families were jovial towards our upcoming union. I hope I can still hold back those tears when I finally walk down the aisle;)